My aim with this post is to help you shorten your pain and frustration if you are in any,

while you are trying to ‘get healthy’ or ‘lose weight’.

Here we go;

As soon as my eyes were open in the morning this is what Id’ think;

• THEN: I can’t believe I’m this fat, I should know what to do to change, I’m a personal trainer 🙁

insert picture here of someone squeezing their fat and having a very sad face 🙁

• NOW: I am so grateful for this little healthy girl who’s just woken me up… and I’m also grateful for… x, y, z. (the list changes daily) – Sometimes I still have to fight off the habit off squeezing any fat and saying negative things to myself, but I’m definitely winning that war. Distraction is a great thing.

NO I’m not saying I’m fat, but see how we all do our own heads in with this talk? – I’m similar to you, we are all a work in progress.

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• THEN: It doesn’t matter that I eat this packet of raw cookie dough as I’m fat anyway and completely bored with my life.

• NOW: I’m conscious of what I’m eating. I mostly follow ‘paleo’ eating (I have done for approx 12 years) although I sometimes add carbs like sweet potato, potato and some rice. Most importantly I’m mindful – and present, while I’m eating it… even when I do overdose on the odd family block of Kit Kat or Potato cakes.

See, I still have treats (or eat off the plan), often several times each week but it doesn’t happen as often as it used to – plus it makes me feel sick which is a real deterrent. And I just want to add, I don’t sit there and put myself down while I’m doing it, I enjoy it. I now think, oh well, this might disrupt my sleep and I’m going to feel a little ‘hung over’ from the food tomorrow so I just know that’s going to happen and the world won’t end (I also try not to make major life changing decisions on these days haha – as that’s how I ended up in Melbourne, coming from Sydney. I made a tired decision, long funny story that one).

OH ALSO A Damage Control Supplement Tip: I also take 2-3 fish oil (or borage seed oil) capsules immediately afterwards, AND 1 Green Tea capsule, so my blood sugar doesn’t spike too high and then crash (which leads to the growth of more fat cells, one feeling more ‘crap’ for want of a better technical term and not to mention a damaged pancreas).

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• THEN: Just do functional exercise as it uses your whole body at once for more of a fat burning effect, and it’s great for stability and strength.

• NOW: I’ve realised the more full body circuit / running / long cardio workouts I do, the tired-er I get. (This has only effected me post baby I might add, which is why I sometimes like to take it out of mumma’s weekly exercise routines when they are my clients). I’m not saying don’t EVER do them, I’m just saying listen to your body, it knows and maybe there’s no need to bash it into being how you want it.

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• THEN: Who’s body is this?? I hate it!!… (I used to run into things with my hips for the first little while after I had my daughter, then I got used to being bigger – which was depressing in itself). I completely disrespected myself and I thought that if I bashed myself up enough that would lead to me finally getting my size 10 body back post baby. But 4 Years after having her I was still close to 90 kg and a size 16-18 🙁

• NOW: I’m stuck with this body for life, I will nourish it, respect it and damn well get it to do what I want by working with it, not pushing against it. Rather I need to develop patience.

I really had to let go of what I knew to be ‘the best way’ of exercising and eating and I had to try new things 🙂

It also helps that I have dived into, and I am incredibly grateful for, my work and the ability or career choice of making my life about helping other people, as soppy as that sounds. There’s nothing (that I’ve found) to be as effective to make you forget about your troubles as contributing to others and being around other people. So maybe you could get a cause bigger than yourself?

For a more detailed explanation of my post baby weight loss story, click to have a look at these videos I made here. They pretty much bare all.

Maybe you are not on a weight loss journey, maybe you are just on a ‘learn a new skill’ journey… I hope you can get something out of my story. I know I learnt to try new things rather than pushing crap up hill, so to speak.. by repeating old methods, day in day out, even though they weren’t working.

One simple example was that I had been exercising longer instead of smarter… To the detriment of my body as I got very,  very tired, (and all you mums out there know you can’t afford to work, run a house and have a sleep in the middle of the day).

Here’s the link to my post baby weight loss videos again.

For now, stop bashing yourself. Love yourself instead. Know that you WILL get there, where ever you are going.

You are already amazing xx